Fast forward to 20 years old I was really starting to give up on finding the Love of My Life. All my friends from high-school were either having babies or getting married. I was working long construction hours and trying hard to manage a stable relationship in between.
I dated ALOT of “wrong” guys. I dated guys completely opposite of me. From military guys to home town guys. I was usually the breakup’er and it was very rare that someone broke up with me.
I reconnected with an old college friend. We started seeing each other as weeks went on. He moved in with me. We moved to a bigger house and got a dog (I named her Cali).
Life was great… until he proposed to me. It seemed like he thought he had me held hostage and he could start showing his true colours. All of a sudden there were more bad times over good times. I would go to the gym at 4am before work just to “get away”.
I was in a depressed state. I signed a 1 year lease with him in this new house. I didn’t know what to do. I didn’t want to lose my dog or the house and have my family say “we told you so”.
The bad times just made my life miserable. He would steal my alcohol that was clearly hidden away from him, he would cause havoc at the neighbors and he would threaten to kill himself every argument we had.
The night I finally had enough was the night he got verbally abusive and smashed a bottle in the garage. I needed to get him out for my safety. He threatened to jump off a bridge. when his friend told him not to, he walked back to my house and grabbed a rope. Said he was going to hang himself. At this point, I’m exhausted. I told him to do it. *heartless of me* but I knew he wouldn’t do it. The people that talk about it are the ones that just want attention (in my opinion)
I had my life planned out with this guy who turned into an abusive alcoholic. My hopes and dreams with him were gone. Thrown out the window. Time to start all over again but did I really want to go through the dating stage again?
I worked on a construction site full of nice guys. Guys that wanted to take me on a date, guys that just wanted to be friends and this one special guy that smiled and checked me out every time I drove by him on site.
January 2019, that special guy asked me to be his girlfriend. I can never explain how he changed my view on men. After dating such shitty people, I finally had someone to fulfill my hopes and dreams with but there was a catch…
He had 2 kids of his own. All of a sudden the thought of being a step mom didn’t seem so bad because of how much I loved this guy. I knew I would love his kids like my own. https://notalonestepmom.family.blog/
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